If You Think Things Change Just Because You're Married, You're Wrong
Domestic Duties
If your partner doesn't actively partake in domestic duties before you tie the knot, he/she will not help you with domestic duties after the wedding. Trust me when I tell you, this does not change just becuase you say your vows. It may change over time, but don't expect some kind of miraculous change right away.
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Domestic Duties
If your partner doesn't actively partake in domestic duties before you tie the knot, he/she will not help you with domestic duties after the wedding. Trust me when I tell you, this does not change just becuase you say your vows. It may change over time, but don't expect some kind of miraculous change right away.
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Drinking
If you partner has a problem with alcohol before you get married, he/she will have a problem with alcohol after you get married. No matter what he/she says. Be prepared and understand that this is more often than not the case.
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Morning People
If your partner is not a morning person, please don't expect them to become one the day after you sign your marriage license. Just becuase you want to get up at sun break and make coffee and sing in the kitchen does not mean s/he's going to be all in for that just because you signed on the dotted line.
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Money Honey
If you like to spend and your S/O likes to save, you can bet your bottom dollar that this is going to be the same once you've entered into nuptial bliss. Maybe the opposite is true. Either way, DISCUSS your spending habits well before you even get engaged, although we both know that you already know these habits even if you want to deny it.
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Consideration
I'm sure you're catching on to the pattern here, but if your partner isn't thoughtful or considerate in the first place this will not change after you get hitched. Communicate your wants and needs with your partner. It's literally the only way to help your cause.
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What can you do?
We all have a limit to what we can handle and many of these things may be negotiable, though some may be deal breakers for you. If there's a behavior that's a deal breaker, but you really really love your partner, you just need to do one thing. COMMUNICATE. Talk to your partner and clearly express your concerns. It's not easy, but if you start communicating effectively it will become easier and easier and eventually it will become normal.
We've all heard couples say "Oh, I didn't know he/she was like that before I married them." I call BS. Yes, you did. You're just too embarrassed to admit it. It's ok, we've all been there.
People are who they are and they rarely change unless there is a trauma or a life altering event. So, if you don't love your partner EXACTLY as they are - please don't marry them.
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What can you do?
We all have a limit to what we can handle and many of these things may be negotiable, though some may be deal breakers for you. If there's a behavior that's a deal breaker, but you really really love your partner, you just need to do one thing. COMMUNICATE. Talk to your partner and clearly express your concerns. It's not easy, but if you start communicating effectively it will become easier and easier and eventually it will become normal.
We've all heard couples say "Oh, I didn't know he/she was like that before I married them." I call BS. Yes, you did. You're just too embarrassed to admit it. It's ok, we've all been there.
People are who they are and they rarely change unless there is a trauma or a life altering event. So, if you don't love your partner EXACTLY as they are - please don't marry them.
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7 Tips To Saving Your Marriage
Photographers: Raw Pixel via Unsplash
