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10 Tips For Writing Your Vows

10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
1. Make a choice: Choose whether or not the vows will be traditionally scripted or if you want to make your own. Rejoice, because this will probably the easiest choice in the wedding planning process. Booklets: Brown Fox Calligraphy.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
1. Make a choice: Choose whether or not the vows will be traditionally scripted or if you want to make your own. Rejoice, because this will probably the easiest choice in the wedding planning process. Booklets: Brown Fox Calligraphy.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
2. Plan ahead: There is no rule that says you can’t talk about your vows with your partner before you’re at the altar. Make a plan together about the vow length, tone, theme, and even specific content. No one wants the groom’s vow to be hilarious and the bride’s a tear-jerker. That’s awkward. Photography: Rustic White Photography. Calligraphy: Happy Lettering.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
3. Plan long ahead: Discuss the heavier stuff with your partner long before the stress of the place settings, the florist’s invoice, and the final guest list sets in. Take some time to come up with a plan together so that you have plenty of time to think of the specific words on your own.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
4. Think: Make a list of words related to feelings, experiences, and memories you have shared with your partner. What made them powerful? What about those feelings and experiences can you promise for the future? What feelings or experiences do you hope to replicate? Why? Photography: O'Malley Photographers.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
5. It’s a PROMISE: We hope this is obvious, but a vow is a promise. That means that whatever you choose to say, you better mean. Come up with words that don’t just sound good for your in-laws but actually illustrate your feelings for the other person. Photography: OneLove Photography.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
6. Practice: No matter what. Even if you know exactly what you’ll say and your vows are a whole twenty seconds long, you have no idea what emotions you’ll feel in the moment, so practice...practice...PRACTICE. Photography: Christopher Nolan Photography.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
7. Cue cards? Since you are going to listen to #6 and start practicing your vows long ahead of time, you may not need cue cards. If you do make them in case of emergency, card stock is recommended so you’re not sweating on an index card, and write legible, separated bullet point sentences so you know where to look. Booklets: Made Divine.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
8. Chill out...but prepare to cry: tears will well up. Hormones tell tears it’s time to be free when joy and nerves combine, so let it happen. At the very least, it shows how much you care about the words you chose. Photography: AJ Dunlap.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
9. Because you will cry, SLOW DOWN: everyone expects you to cry, so don’t try to swallow it back. If you get choked up or nervous, stop and take a breath. Your partner and the audience will find it endearing, and you’ll feel much better. Take as long as you need to say what you need to say. Photography: Melissa Gidney Photography. Calligraphy: Laura Lavender Calligraphy.
10 Tips For Writing Your Vows
10. Remember history: Ancient Romans did it. Medieval townsfolk made it cool. Now it’s your turn to honor history and commit yourself to another person in front of x number of witnesses. The tradition of vows has survived for thousands of years for a reason, so take it seriously and express the love that the gesture implies. Photography: Emily Heizer.