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Why You Should Give A Vibrator As A Gift

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Before you dive into why you should buy the bride-to-be a vibrator as a wedding gift, we have to share that the future princess, Miss Meghan Markle will be receiving the Crescendo Mystery Vibe on her wedding day. So, you know this device is royally awesome. Pun intended.

We cannot be certain that Megan and Prince Harry have spoken about how their wedding night will go, but we are certain that we don’t talk enough about the wedding night anymore, and maybe we should. What was once the culmination of a romantic, magical day and at least, theoretically the first time the groom and bride shared a bed has almost become a punchline. After the exhausting lead up to the actual wedding, sleep, not sex is often the priority. Stephanie Alys, creator of I will do Mystery Vibe aims to take it back. Sex on the wedding night should be as good as the event itself and so it be should every night after. Read on to hear from Stephanie why you should give a vibrator as a gift to ensure that every night of the couple's life is as good as the wedding night. 

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Sure, fidelity and love and compassion and communication are central to a long and healthy marriage, but if we’re being honest, a passionate, sexual connection undergirds all of that. Good sex decreases stress, facilitates bonding, and generates the spark that keeps relationships vital.

But pleasure is not something we talk about at weddings. It’s not even something many of us talk about in relationships. In fact, by the time we get to the wedding night, many of us, having dated or lived together for years, have settled into sexual patterns that are almost routine.

I’m a woman in tech, co-founder of MysteryVibe, and yet for all the gadgets I see on wedding registries — the Instapots, the Kitchen Aids, the Dysons — I have yet to see a personal massager make the list. So I always make sure to send one, because I know a good vibrator is the most important wedding gift of all. 

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FYI - This is not a paid post, we were just so intrigued by Stephanie and this product that we had to share. While investigating and reading reviews we stumbled upon this review. It's quite a testimony to the product.

With my other toys it was always via clitoral stimulation but with Crescendo I was able to reach that G-spot and I almost blacked out. It was truly wonderful and deeply satisfying on many levels. I am so grateful to the Mystery Vibe team for making such an amazing product. As I mentioned earlier, it has truly altered my life for the better. I don’t care who you are or what your orientation is, you really need this vibrator in your life. It will help alleviate stress from a hard day, it will help you feel satisfied if you are single, it will put spice back into your love life or sex life. It is truly worth the investment - confessionsoftheprofessions.com

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For years, vibrators were built and developed by men, with the assumption that they’d be used by lonely women. But in recent years women have taken the industry into their own hands, and with it has come a new generation of toys. We developed products — including my own pride and joy, the Crescendo — that wouldn’t just get us off when we were alone but would help our partners as well.

A recent study showed that women in relationships have one orgasm for every three had by the man. It’s called the orgasm gap, and it’s not only fundamentally unfair, it’s dangerous to healthy relationships.

Many of us have spoken out about the pay gap, but if you’re talking success in a marriage, equity in the bedroom is just as crucial. Lack of satisfaction means there’s a lack of communication, which can breed feelings of resentment. So not only are you not getting the positive benefits of sex — the stress-reduction, the oxytocin bonding, the sheer enjoyment — you’re left feeling undervalued, and perhaps unwanted.


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Vibrators shouldn’t be seen as replacements for men, as the generation before us feared, but rather a tech-fueled way of improving our sex lives. Think of it as the bedroom equivalent of that Instapot. The device doesn’t replace the cook, it’s just a modern tool that makes certain dishes easier. You may not need it at every meal, but it’s indispensable when you do.

A good vibrator, like a smartphone, improves communication. To use a vibrator with your partner is to have an active conversation about what feels good, and what doesn’t. Your husband becomes more actively engaged in your pleasure, and less stressed about getting you there.

During the years that went into developing the Crescendo, I especially looked for qualities that would facilitate communication among couples, ultimately deciding that a flexible, adjustable body, with separate, articulated motors that were app programmable, would encourage people to explore while creating something that would adapt with us as we grow.


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Because what we need on that first wedding night may not be what we need a year later, or after kids, or as our bodies change. When I give a vibrator as a wedding gift, I want something that will last as long as a standing mixer — and hopefully getting used a lot more!

So if you, like me, can’t bring yourself to spend $100 on a place setting that they’ll use once, go rogue and send a vibrator. And with any luck, they’ll thank you for it on their 50th Anniversary. Purchase the Crescendo here.